A few weeks ago, I finally got around to reading The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck by Ms. Knight after purchasing both of these books in a storming fury of, “Holy shit, I’m about to have a baby and I do not have my shit together and my whole life is a mess!” The jury is out on whether or not such outbursts were hormones because I generally have them at least once a day. For me it will be impossible for me to review this book without referring to the other so please note that you don’t have to read LCM to “get” GYST but they actually do kind of play well together.
So, here’s what I learned from GYST: Man, I have no idea how other people live!
There is a TON of useful ideas in here. Knight discusses the idea of “keys, phone, wallet,” which I currently have written across the top of my planner page for the week. Keys are the ability to strategize, phone is the ability to focus, and wallet is commitment. These are the master tools for setting some goals and actually obtaining them.
Seriously, one of the things that I found most useful from this book was the idea of the power of negative thinking. A lot of the goals that I currently have involve really broad things like “be healthier” and “get your money situation under control.” Broad ideas like that are a problem I have. I want to be healthier and I can think of a million little ways to do so and, thus, my brain goes in those million different directions. I want to get my money together again and there are a million different ways to do it and there goes my brain again. Knight’s suggestion of negative thinking is great. Instead of thinking of the millions of ways I can do better, I can take each scenario as it rises. When I wanted to eat lunch out yesterday even though I had a perfectly delicious meal in the work fridge I took a couple of minutes to remind myself that I don’t want to be fat and broke. It worked.
Knight’s book is full of suggestions for getting the little things together and the small. It can help people on either end of the spectrum. For me, it made me feel good that I had so much of my shit together (on time, clean inbox, to do lists) and also helped ready me to tackle those bigger things that have been bothering me (money, baby weight, not working myself into the ground and sucking all of the joy out of my life).
Go now. Get your shit together already!